Posts Tagged ‘family’

    Not Your Place

    Posted on: March 2nd, 2017 by Randi No Comments

    Recently, I had to block a family member for sharing information that wasn’t there’s to share. I see it happen to friends and see people complaining about it online in relationship forums. I never thought it was something I had to worry about.

    It was a comment posted on a Facebook status that had nothing to do with the subject of the post. What struck me as he most infuriating was that it was so far off topic that it reaked of attention seeking. It was a very bold “I know something that others don’t, let me show them how important I am”. What’s worse is that this was something I did not share with this person. Instead it was overheard because they feel the need to stick their nose in business that doesn’t belong to them.

    There are aspects of my life that are private, that I share with immediate family and there are things that I keep from certain people because those people don’t deserve to know. In either case, I prefer to tell those people. I don’t need my business shared through to family members that I don’t speak to nor have a relationship with. If I wanted them to know, I would tell them.

    If you have good or bad news about someone, it’s not your place to tell. Simply mind your own business and leave it to that person to deal with. Dont resort to being a gossip because you have nothing worth sharing in your own life. It’s not your place.

    Our New Baby!

    Posted on: February 18th, 2017 by Randi No Comments

    We got a new car!

    Last Wednesday Andrew came home and said his engine was making a knocking sound. We discussed taking it into the garage this weekend and that was it. When he came home on Thursday for Lunch he had died once and it was making a loud screeching noise. He called out to take it to the garage with my mom and died on the way there. He made sure to re up his AAA membership earlier in the day, just in case, so when he died he could be towed to the garage. He died less than 2 blocks away and had to call them. It turns out is wasn’t worth fixing so we were without a car Friday. My mom took him to and from work.

    Saturday, she took him to go look at others. I haven’t been sleeping well because of my sciatic so I didn’t go, instead opting to stay in bed and get some actual sleep. I knew he could handle it. I got some sleep and he got us a new car.

    It’s a 2013 Suburu Forester and it’s so cute! It’s roomy and clean. I’m excited because this will be my car in a few years (if I ever get my license) and I love it. Andrew likes it a lot too. Now if I can only get my back healed so I can go for a ride in it!

    5 Great Gifts for Grandma

    Posted on: February 14th, 2017 by Randi No Comments

    Your grandmother has done a lot for you, so it makes sense that you want to find her an amazing gift to celebrate her birthday or anniversary. But what should you buy? What present will truly show your appreciation for years of home-cooked meals and hand-made quilts? Here are just a few ideas for bringing a smile to her face.

    1. Music

    Everyone loves music, especially if it reminds them of happier times in the past. What songs were charting when your grandmother was a little girl? What song played at her wedding? If you can buy these records for her, she’ll appreciate both the gift and the thought that you put behind it.

    2. Candles

    There are candles for every occasion, so you’ll have your pick of the litter when it comes to sweet scents that grandma will love. Maybe she adores the smell of freshly-baked cookies; maybe she enjoys the soothing properties of vanilla, jasmine or lavender. If you’re worried about her ability to handle fire, you can even look into “flameless” candles that run on LED lights and batteries.

    3. Jewelry

    While you might want to steer clear of anything with tiny clasps or finicky loops, some easy-to-wear jewelry will be a token of your love that your grandmother can wear every day. Think about necklaces, bracelets and even watches that will slide on without difficulty. Think about charms that you can add to a chain that have personal meaning to her.

    4. Puzzles

    Puzzles are more than just a fun activity. For senior citizens, they’re also a brain-boosting tool that can sharpen cognitive skills and lessen the symptoms of degenerative diseases. As a bonus, if you’re willing to help grandma put them together, you’ll be giving her an even greater gift: time with you.

    5. Figurines

    There are figurines in every size and shape that you can imagine, so it’s just a matter of choosing one that will mean something to your grandmother. Does she like angels? Is she obsessed with owls? Is her entire home covered in flowers? Check out things like Willow Tree figures to find the perfect statue that she can display on her mantle.

    These are just a few gifts that grandma is sure to love. Whether she’s an active 60-year-old or a gentle 90-year-old, let these presents show her how much she means to you.

    This is Home

    Posted on: November 26th, 2016 by Randi 2 Comments

    Well, we’re moved in and it feels so good. Everything went so smoothly and I can not even describe how thankful I am for Andrew and Zack. Both of them did fantastic and they worked so hard. I didn’t work nearly as hard as they did but I am so damn sore. (I can’t wait to take a bath!!) Andrew’s day started off with him feeling like shit but eventually he started to feel better and move quicker with packing the truck.

    The dogs were moved over first because someone had to wait for the gas people to come. I didn’t want to leave the dogs at the house without me because they go nuts. They did amazing and they love their new yard. Last task of the night was getting the kitties over. They are taking it very hard and a couple are still getting used to the house. Reese has been wandering more and exploring when she’s used to hiding. Loki, my brave, fearless, pain in the ass is prying open cupboards to hide. The bravest ones usually fall apart the hardest. (Last time it was Bella who hid under the fridge for 4 days)

    Overall things are slowly getting into place and this home is coming together. We have plans to buy pieces of furniture and upgrade other. I can’t wait to hang photo frames and such. I’m so excited to make this place ours.

     

    Happy Thanksgiving!

    Posted on: November 24th, 2016 by Randi No Comments

    Today is Thanksgiving and tomorrow is our moving day! My mom had postponed Thanksgiving because everyone in her household was sick. I received a call at 10:00am this morning that my great aunt’s husband became very sick (hoping everything is okay with him) and my mom needed to take my grandma out to Ohio. So, the kids were shuffled to us.

    Because of the holiday postponement Andrew and I decided to still do a very small Thanksgiving for just the two of us and we bought the stuff last night. Today we looked completely unprepared when we located a grocery store that was open until 3:00pm today carrying what looked like a full Thanksgiving dinner to the register. We just needed to double everything we had but it didn’t look like that, I’m sure. (Another reason to not assume things about people) So, the kids are with us and my mom who had planned to take the day off to rest is now traveling 6+ hours to Ohio in holiday traffic.

    This is the first time Andrew or I have ever cooked a turkey and while I’ve helped make holiday dinners before, I’ve never taken the reigns. I guess now that I’m married it’s time that changes since going forward I’ll be taking over holidays (okay, okay, maybe just becoming the venue) since my house is bigger. Moving day is the day right after Thanksgiving and we’ll be spending time with Andrew’s family this Christmas so that won’t happen until Easter.

    Tomorrow we’ll be getting up early to go pick up our truck and get this moving day on the road. With all of the luck in the world (and it’s not looking good with recent events/our track record) everything will go well and tomorrow we will be in our new home!

    I hope you all have a very happy, full, and safe Thanksgiving!

    We bought a home!

    Posted on: November 17th, 2016 by Randi 4 Comments

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    Yes, you read that right. Our very first home. We are both so very excited and can’t wait to move in. We’re in the process of painting and will be moving in the day after Thanksgiving. It has 3 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms, an open floor plan, a nice yard for the doggies, laundry room and all new appliances. We’ll have central air in the summer time and the previous owners had cats too so their are carpeted shelves hung above the doors in the hallway.

    We’ve been trying to get out of this shitty neighborhood for so long and now we finally can. It’s a very nice, quiet area. We’re not far from my mom and siblings either. However, my brother, Patrick, will be moving out. This will be just Andrew and me. It’s so exciting. This means the beginning of so many good things and memories. I can’t even believe we are finally there.

    Once we’re in and begin to make some changes, I’ll be posting more photos. It only needs a little bit of work, all cosmetic, and we are so excited to do it because it’s OURS. I can’t wait for the nice weather so I can paint the door and start to garden. We are beside ourselves with excitement. We can’t wait to be moved in.

    Plan Backyard Activities for Your Kids This Summer

    Posted on: November 4th, 2016 by Randi No Comments

    A lot of parents wish their kids were growing up in a different world. They think about the time when they grew up or what it was like when their parents were growing up. Lots kids played in the neighborhood with other kids. They would play baseball, ride bikes, or just run around in the yards of the neighbors playing tag and other games. And while it is true that the modern world is a lot different and more dangerous, this does not mean that kids need to spend their entire summer watching movies and playing video games.

    Parents can make sure that their children have lots of activities to engage in outdoors. It is always a good idea to plan camping trips and hiking days when parents have time off from work. However, the backyard is a great place for the kids to play. It is fun to invite over friends, neighborhood kids, and cousins to play outdoor games like tag, hide and go seek, or play with a ball or other simple toys. Parents can make backyard fun even more exciting by purchasing playground equipment or the official cornhole game. When children have things to do in the backyard, they will run around, get exercise, socialize with other kids, and enjoy some fresh air.

    It is also a fun idea to include water activities. There are lots of different games on the market that include using the hose, or even simply playing in the sprinkler can be a lot of fun. Throwing water balloons is also a great way to get the kids outside and having fun on hot days during the summer. This can be a fun family activity. Depending on the size of your backyard and your budget, you may want to have a pool installed. There are pros and cons for having an above ground pool installed as well as installing one in the ground. If this is a good idea for your home and family, the kids will be able to enjoy exercise in the pool, lots of fun, and escape the summer heat.

    Spending time in the backyard as a family is a great way for everyone to enjoy time with each other. Parents need to plan fun activities so that everyone can stay occupied and get some exercise while being together.

    9 Years

    Posted on: October 15th, 2016 by Randi No Comments

    aboutmepic9 years ago, Andrew and I sat on my couch, his head in my lap, and he asked me to be his girlfriend. I had been waiting for that moment for a while and as simple as it sounds, it was the sweetest thing. When I said yes, he kissed me and my eyes welled up. I was 16 years old and I thought he was cute and funny and so smart. I never thought we’d be here, 9 years later, getting ready to get married. You don’t meet the one at 16 unless you’re in a movie and I thought it would take me a long time.

    I can’t say for certain when we crossed over from gf/bf to soul mates. I guess I expected there to be a definitive moment. There wasn’t, it just happened gradually. You could say that I knew it was something really special when we made it through months of being long distance when I went away to school. Nobody expected it to work, and as much as I loved him even I was fearful. I watched my friends’ relationships drop like flies around me. We spoke every night and texted all day. It was a rough 6 months but we made it through.  We did it again when he had to move and thanks to my mom and grandma they made sure I never went too long without seeing him. I hated when he would go and one day he came over and just never left.

    He was there for me when I lost my grandfather and couldn’t have been more sweet and comforting. I was there for him when he lost his father. Every single one of his tears shattered my heart. We’ve been through a lot together and we will go through a hell of a lot more. He is my best friend and I can’t imagine not having him in my life. I have no idea where I’d be. He has been with me for more than 1/3 of my life and I have many more memories of us together than not.

    I still get butterflies with him and he makes me laugh uncontrollably constantly. We make bad jokes and laugh at each other. We fight like an old married couple and I call him Walter and he calls me Diane. He’s my player 2 and we yell at each other when we are bad. He does whatever he can to put a smile on my face. The love I feel for him is beyond words. He is my entire world.

    Neither of us is really interested in an extravagant display of a wedding. We aren’t comfortable with getting up in front of a bunch of people and prefer to avoid public displays of affection. Weddings are expensive and a lot of work to plan. Sure, I’d be happy to have a wedding if someone else planned and paid for it. That’s not happening for us and both of us would much prefer to put any extra money towards a house. So, that’s what we planned to do.

    Andrew and I have are having a self uniting marriage1. We are tying the knot ourselves. I’m not worrying about possibly regretting not having a wedding. If we decide we do want one, we can do a vow renewal down the road. What’s important is we are married. What’s important is that I finally get to call the man I love my husband. We applied for the license yesterday and will get our license on Monday. Even if we need to wait until Monday for it to be “legal”, for all intents and purposes we are married and I haven’t been able to stop smiling since.

    1. A self-uniting marriage is one in which the couple are married without the presence of a third-party officiant. Although non-denominational, this method of getting married is sometimes referred to as a “Quaker Marriage”.

    Blood is supposed to be thicker

    Posted on: July 2nd, 2016 by Randi 1 Comment

    When I was growing up, my mom and my aunt “shared custody” of my brother and me. My mom, a single mother, worked a lot and realized babysitters cost a lot. One job was specifically for paying the babysitter. So it became a regular thing that we would go to my aunt’s house. At one point, they were trading off 3-4 nights a week. Around this point, my aunt met her husband (not married until 2008) who had a daughter a year younger than me, Christina. I don’t talk about Christina a lot on here because I don’t see her very often. She is my oldest and best friend and also my cousin by marriage. We spent a lot of time at my aunt’s house and Christina came over a lot to to be with her father, my uncle. We also spent a lot of time with my aunt alone. She was, for all intents and purposes, my second mother. I remember laying on the couch with her cuddling while I watched Are You Afraid of the Dark and she’d buy us the cool snacks. She was surprisingly a bit more strict than my mom but that didn’t matter early on. She was there for everything just like my mom was. My brother and I didn’t know our fathers so with my mom and aunt I never felt like I was missing anything. I did have two parents.

    I remember that things got more difficult as we got older. Her husband seemed to pick on my brother a lot. Christina, I love her to the moon and back, but she was a little bitch. She’ll admit that. She did things that her father would find a way to blame on Patrick or me. When I was 12, my aunt showed up at the door to tell my mom that money was missing from her dresser, where she always laid out her tips after work. She said Christina said I took it or her husband accused me, not sure. I wasn’t a theif. My mom would come home from work, drop her pants in the bathroom and any change that fell out and landed on the floor stayed there. We knew better than to steal. My mom confronted me while my aunt stood there. I told her I didn’t and my mom didn’t believe me. That hurt more than the smack I received when I tried to walk away because there was only so many times I could say “I didn’t do it”. After I went to my room, my mom says that my aunt started to think *maybe* it wasn’t me. Maybe Christina did it. It was Christina. My aunt caught her with her ring a few days later, also on her dresser.

    Her husband had convinced her that I stole from her and even though she knew I wasn’t like that, she took his side and that hurt so much. My mom and she raised me better than that. Our time at my aunts came to a halt fairly quickly. I was hurt that she/he didn’t trust me and he wasn’t very nice to my brother. We just stopped going. She was still very involved in our lives, though. I loved her and I still wanted to be around her. We spent holidays together. She came to graduations. Over time, we spent less and less time together and sided with her husband more and more.

    What’s weird is my mom and her were fairly close through all of this. They fought but they were a team. Somewhere in all of this, there was a massive fight over her husband and my mom and she stopped speaking. She got married in 2008 and we were in her wedding, Patrick and I and Zack and Breya. My mom tried to be there for her but she was met with attitude at every turn. They didn’t speak except when forced to, when she came for birthdays and such.

    I’m going to back up a bit to explain something. I have an uncle. He lived with my aunt while we were going over there. He had the spare bedroom and we barely saw him. Remember we were there half time. We saw him come out for food but other than that, he spent all of his time in his room. He moved out when I was still fairly young. Patrick and I only saw him on holidays and then my aunt’s wedding and then when my grandfather died in 2011. He was pretty much nonexistent in our lives. No idea why.

    When my grandfather died, he blamed my grandmother. For some reason, my uncle was my aunt’s favorite sibling and either she sided with him because of that or because she blamed my grandfather too. I still don’t know. The funeral was the last time I saw or even spoke to my uncle. I’m not kidding. Not a single word. My brother saw him at a store once and he rushed out of the door. He also saw him out at a bar and he said two words to him and walked away. He is not family. I’m indifferent to him.

    My aunt on the other hand, we have history. It still hurts now and then when I think about how she picked her husband over us when she thought of us as her own children. We’ve spoken, she tries to call every year on or around our birthdays and we go out to lunch but it feels forced and it’s not the same. I feel like it’s weird for her that I’m an adult, maybe because she missed it all. We make small talk but I’m not going to talk to her about the state of my relationship with Andrew. The last time I really saw her as family was the Christmas after Andrew and I got together (when I was 16). She did the whole “if you hurt her, I’ll kill you” thing. And it seemed mean since she wasn’t all that involed in my life at that point nor did she even know Andrew. It wasn’t that it didn’t seem sincere, just that it sounded more like a threat. She didn’t know Andrew, my mom did and she loved him and trusted him.

    This was long but my point is this, Patrick and I had not only our fathers abandon us, but our aunt and uncle as well. It sucks, my family was so close when I was little and things just got worse and worse.

    That brings me to today. Zack and Breya are 14 and almost 11. They don’t know my aunt and uncle. My mom said she had a talk with Breya and mentioned Christina being aunt’s husband’s daughter. She thought Christina was “always in our lives”. My mom explained that she was always in (Breya’s) life but we met because she is his daughter. She doesn’t know them. Christina is my best friend and even though we don’t spend nearly as much time with her as I’d like, she’s been around the kids. They know her.

    Patrick lives with me. He moved in with Andrew and I when we moved out. My brother rents a room from us and works a lot but not nearly as much as he acts like. Zack and Breya come to my house nearly every other weekend. Not always. I’m not going to lie but they come pretty often. I see them at the very least, once a month, and Zack and talk fairly frequently. I wish Breya would master texting or realize she can text me. I love them to pieces. On the weekends that they are here, Patrick works. You might think that’s not his fault and I would normally agree with you however their father, Bobby, gets them on the off weekends. I’m flexible, he is not. So we’ve switch weekends on occasions. And my brother always moves his weekends to work to coincide with their weekends with me. They see him for 30 seconds as he grabs his keys and walks out of the door. Zack looked up to Patrick before we moved. Now, he looks up to Andrew, his brother in law, because that’s who he knows. My brother has promised to take him fishing, to take him to the firehouse, to hang out with him and he has let him down every time. They same things my uncle did to Patrick. The difference between Zack and Patrick is that Patrick was a much more emotional child than Zack is. Every time Patrick got stood up, he bawled. He was heart broken but he. always. fell. for. it. That is not a slight at him. He was surrounded by women and was much more emotional and open about his feelings. Zack, on the other hand, is much more macho than Patrick was. It hurt him at first but he’s learned to not fall for it and if it hurts him, he tries to not let it show. I know he’s heartbroken. Patrick and I were when our own family abandoned us. This is Zack’s big brother. His role model. Zack is now closer to Andrew than he is to Patrick. As wonderful as that is, it sucks. His brother should be there for him. What kind of person has that done to him and turns around and does it to someone else. Someone you supposedly love. He’s so caught up in his own life that he forgets or doesn’t care that he is breaking his brother’s heart.

    I want to say that growing up, neither of us had a father. I’ve gotten shit for this before but I’m going to say it again. I was raised without a father, therefore I didn’t feel like I missed out on anything by not having one. I’m a girl, I needed my mother. I had my mother and my aunt, in the beginning. Yeah, I was a bit jealous of my friends who had their dad in their lives but I don’t feel like I missed anything serious. My mom was everything I needed and I think I’m a fairly normal person. My brother, on the other hand, struggled a lot by not having his father around and he latched on to every male figure in his life. My grandfather who couldn’t leave his bed, my uncle who didn’t care for his feelings at all, my aunt’s husband who wasn’t the nicest to him. It felt like everyone except my step dad, Bobby, who does not get as much credit in our upbringing as he deserves. My mom did a shit ton for us, but Bobby came into our lives when I was 8 and has been there for us and loved us like his own. He left the parenting (of us) to my mother but he was there if we needed him.

    Zack and Breya and I are very close. I’ve spent a lot of time with them. I wasn’t the best sibling always because for the early years, I felt forced to raise kids that weren’t mine. But I’ve done homework with them, I’ve gotten them up in the mornings, I took care of boo boos, I’ve yelled and disciplined them. I wasn’t a #1 parent by any means but I love them as if they were my own. Now that they are older and I’m not so much of a hard ass on them because I don’t have to be, they are cool kids. They are little adults, smartasses but so am I. I am their big sister and not for ONE FUCKING SECOND can I imagine just cutting them out of my life. It’s only going to get better from here. Breya is excited to be an aunt to my children and Zack probably doesn’t care either way but would make an awesome uncle. I expect that they’ll only come around more often.

    My mom had tried to talk to Patrick about breaking Zack’s heart. Hell, she’s tried to talk to him about the way he cuts us all out of his life but to no avail. He is so wrapped up in his own shit that he doesn’t care. I don’t get it but I feel for Zack and Breya. My fear is that one day, Andrew and I are going to buy a house. We want to do this on our own and therefore, Patrick won’t be coming. If he doesn’t live with us, we may never see him. He’s going to go the way of my aunt and uncle and I don’t know why. It’s like we had very separate upbringings. Like he didn’t experience the same things. It hurts me to think about Zack and Breya not knowing him like they know me. It feels surreal because he is their brother, not a cousin twice removed or something. I couldn’t imagine cutting them out of my life but he seems to have no problem doing it. I wish he’d figure it out and realize this is going to damage any sort of relationship he may want when they are older. He’s my brother and as much of an asshole as he is, HE’S MY BROTHER. He will still be invited to holidays and such and I’ll still call him but it’s up to him whether he shows up or returns our calls.

    Caring for Your Kids: How to Find the Right Pediatrician

    Posted on: May 2nd, 2016 by Randi No Comments

    The health of your children is important, and if you’re like every other parent in the US, you put it above almost everything else. The fact is though, getting medical care for kids doesn’t just happen. You have to make it happen.

    If you’re like a lot of people, you really don’t know who to turn to when it comes to medical care for your kids when they’re young. That isn’t a unique problem, though it isn’t one you hear about very often.

    Whether your child is six months old or six years old, you need to be responsible for their health. Use this guide to help you find the best pediatrician for your child in your area no matter what.

    Ask Other Parents

    Finding a doctor isn’t rocket science, but if you don’t know where to turn, it can be easy to feel lost. You probably know other parents in your area though, right? Talk to them and get a few names to call.

    You just might find your child’s doctor for years to come.

    Talk to Your Doctor

    Doctors know other doctors, and they speak with them on a regular basis. While you might find it strange to ask your OBGYN for a referral to a pediatrician, chances are they know at least one or two that they trust and know will take excellent care of your child.

    Get a name or phone number as soon as possible. You don’t even have to make an appointment with your doctor for this to work. Just put in a phone call and you’ll probably have a name or two to call right on the spot.

    Visit Multiple Pediatricians

    You can find a wide variety of pediatricians in Cyfair TX, so why would you only visit one when trying to find the best doctor for your child? There’s no reason not to meet with more than one pediatrician recommended to you and see how your relationship with them is.

    Being able to talk to your doctor, specifically if you have young children who can’t always express themselves well, is incredibly important. Take the time to sit down and have a conversation with any doctor you’re going to be taking your kids to.

    In addition, find a pediatrician your kids are comfortable with. You’ll know right away if your child doesn’t like a particular doctor.

I’m Randi, short for RandiLynn. I am a 25 year old blogger, web developer, furmama, and gamer from Northeast PA. I live with my husband and 7 animals. I live, eat, and sleep HTML & CSS. I spend my time creating pretty web stuff, blogging, gaming or binge-watching TV shows.


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