9 years ago, Andrew and I sat on my couch, his head in my lap, and he asked me to be his girlfriend. I had been waiting for that moment for a while and as simple as it sounds, it was the sweetest thing. When I said yes, he kissed me and my eyes welled up. I was 16 years old and I thought he was cute and funny and so smart. I never thought we’d be here, 9 years later, getting ready to get married. You don’t meet the one at 16 unless you’re in a movie and I thought it would take me a long time.
I can’t say for certain when we crossed over from gf/bf to soul mates. I guess I expected there to be a definitive moment. There wasn’t, it just happened gradually. You could say that I knew it was something really special when we made it through months of being long distance when I went away to school. Nobody expected it to work, and as much as I loved him even I was fearful. I watched my friends’ relationships drop like flies around me. We spoke every night and texted all day. It was a rough 6 months but we made it through. We did it again when he had to move and thanks to my mom and grandma they made sure I never went too long without seeing him. I hated when he would go and one day he came over and just never left.
He was there for me when I lost my grandfather and couldn’t have been more sweet and comforting. I was there for him when he lost his father. Every single one of his tears shattered my heart. We’ve been through a lot together and we will go through a hell of a lot more. He is my best friend and I can’t imagine not having him in my life. I have no idea where I’d be. He has been with me for more than 1/3 of my life and I have many more memories of us together than not.
I still get butterflies with him and he makes me laugh uncontrollably constantly. We make bad jokes and laugh at each other. We fight like an old married couple and I call him Walter and he calls me Diane. He’s my player 2 and we yell at each other when we are bad. He does whatever he can to put a smile on my face. The love I feel for him is beyond words. He is my entire world.
Neither of us is really interested in an extravagant display of a wedding. We aren’t comfortable with getting up in front of a bunch of people and prefer to avoid public displays of affection. Weddings are expensive and a lot of work to plan. Sure, I’d be happy to have a wedding if someone else planned and paid for it. That’s not happening for us and both of us would much prefer to put any extra money towards a house. So, that’s what we planned to do.
Andrew and I have are having a self uniting marriage. We are tying the knot ourselves. I’m not worrying about possibly regretting not having a wedding. If we decide we do want one, we can do a vow renewal down the road. What’s important is we are married. What’s important is that I finally get to call the man I love my husband. We applied for the license yesterday and will get our license on Monday. Even if we need to wait until Monday for it to be “legal”, for all intents and purposes we are married and I haven’t been able to stop smiling since.